Tuesday, December 13, 2011

17. A Letter to My Partner, Reality Inches Back

28 April 1992

 Dear Gary,

 It is about time that I send you another letter, keeping you up to date on the progress of my sabbatical year.  I will not repeat our travel itinerary, which I recently sent to Candy, on the theory that (I hope) my letters to Candy eventually make their way around the office. 

 Robert, Mara and Jeffrey catch the bus at 7:40 each weekday.  School starts at about 9.  On Saturday there is no bus and I take Robert into Cambridge for his half day of school (remember Herb's stories of working half days on Saturdays in the early years?).  I try, if I can, to doodle around Cambridge until half past twelve, when Robert gets out.  Sometimes I do a little reading or editing in the car: it is really quite a nice car, almost a portable room; stooped over, you can walk between the front and the back; sitting at the table in the back is quite comfortable. 

 As I was picking up my newspaper last Saturday, I noticed that the shopkeeper did not even mention the Saturday magazine lying on the counter (I picked mine up anyway), and I thought of all the little things that one must learn living in a different place, things like Saturday and Sunday magazines which are sometimes on the counter and sometimes in the magazine rack and which are included in the price of the newspaper.  Sometimes the news agents put the magazines in the paper and sometimes they don't.  (We buy our newspapers from the newsagent; there are paper boys who deliver, but most people simply go in and pick up their papers.)

 That got me thinking: what are the other little things that we have learned over the year; that is, besides the common things such as lorry means truck and petrol means gas?  Cathy and I sat around our little barbecue Saturday evening and tried to think of some of them. 

 At the grocery store, the shopper must bag for him or herself; the smart shopper brings his or her bags back to the store and reuses them.  Though the sales clerk will often ask if you would like one, sometimes you must remember to ask for a "carrier bag."  Remember also to have your fruits and vegetables weighed and priced in the produce department, for there is no scale at the checkout stand.  One must queue for this, as well as for the deli or bakery, and, in the latter cases, remember to take a number. 

 There has been a big controversy here over Sunday shopping.  Traditionally stores are closed on Sundays, but over the last "run up" to Christmas, many of the stores opened on Sunday in an attempt to get more business.  This was technically a violation of the law, but somebody has a case before the EEC courts alleging that the Sunday trading law in Britain is unlawful, and the government claimed its hands were tied and refused to prosecute.  The Church of England argued that Sunday trading should not be encouraged, but was more appalled by the blatant disregard of the law by big companies.  Certain companies took the higher ground and refused to open, among them our market.  The issue remains unresolved, but we are now well accustomed to making sure that we have sufficient groceries on Saturday to see us through Sunday and Monday morning, and we know that the grocery stores do run out of stock late Saturday (produce, milk, OJ, fresh meat, bread), so one is well advised to shop early, with the crowds.  At first, the thought of nothing open was enough to cause a bit of a panic.  I don't think we seriously thought we might run out of something, it was just the lack of that comforting thought we subconsciously have at home, that things are always available.

 Other little things: knowing which are the good local foods, etc, such as, Ribena (black currant juice) and Hob Nob cookies.  A "digestive" is a graham cracker, a "biscuit" is a cookie, a "sweet" or a "pudding" is dessert; at the movies one orders salt or sweet popcorn.  What are the good television (not TV) shows?  Our friends told us everyone watches "Lovejoy", which we now watch.  Lovejoy is a fictional antiques expert who solves mysteries.  The filming is in and around our area.  It is still hard to figure out when things are on.  Sometimes a show, such as "Lovejoy," will be on for several weeks, but then it will be off.  Many shows are what we would call a mini series, airing once a week for several weeks.  There was a very good show on Churchill, but there are dramas and mysteries as well.  During Christmas, everything changes, as the television stations (there are four: BBC 1 and 2, ITV [called Anglia in our area] and Channel 4) all compete for ratings by showing all the good movies, first runs and classics.  We have successfully passed the year without video recorder, Nintendo and cable, though most people we know have VCRs and there are video rental stores.

 To continue: a vacation is a "holiday"; and one uses the "motorway" not the freeway.  The water here is very hard, and one is best advised to buy a "Brita" water filter, otherwise the limescale deposits in the electric kettle (a very good appliance) and the water itself become very unappealing.  The kids' quiz game informs us that "fall" is the American word for autumn.  Not having been a kid here, I doubt I will ever learn some of the slang.

 Communities here seem to better integrate all aspects of life: kids, working people, mentally and physically handicapped, householders, elderly and dead (churchyards).  At home we mostly see only the physically fit, every other group seems to be segregated to its own area.

 There are many good ideas over here, not the least of which is the British idea of bagging your own groceries and reusing your old bags.  In Italy, you must pay for your carrier bags.  I love the roundabouts; they keep the traffic moving without a light but they take restraint.  They work in France, but they would never work in Italy.  They might be a good idea in the US, get us away from the mindless order of traffic signals, though I think we respond well to the law and order of traffic lights.  Drivers here, by the way, are very good, despite the tailgating and high speeds on pretty country roads.  One reason is that people keep their minds on what they're doing: one rarely sees a driver with a go cup of coffee or eating at the wheel.  This is probably because most cars have manual transmissions and both hands are required to drive.  This has the salutary effect of keeping the driver's attention engaged, which is important on country roads here.  Even the "A" roads are seldom straight.  An interesting aspect of this is the motorway gas station and cafe, accessible only off of the motorway.  In Italy, one goes in and stands at the bar, drinking a cappuccino or, perhaps, having a drink from the well stocked bar.  Can you imagine a roadside freeway bar in the US?  

 It took me awhile to figure out the beer.  Lager (Heineken, Carlsburg) has now become more popular than ale or bitter (not bitters), but there is plenty of bitter available.  I am surprised at how good it is; it is darker than lager, has a slightly stronger taste and is also less carbonated.  (The reason ice cubes are optional in drinks here and beer cool, not ice cold, is that one doesn't need the extra cold in a temperate, but cool climate.)  Most beer comes in pint or half liter cans, though sometimes in 333 ml. cans, shorter than out 12 oz. cans.  There are endless promotions: 12% free, two extra cans free, etc.  There is also a mind numbing number of different kinds of bitter.  Britain, Belgium (700 kinds of beer) and Germany put the US to shame by the number of different kinds of beer.  By the way, you can get Corona here and now Miller draft (from the US); Budweiser and Lite are already sold, brewed in England, but they don't seem to taste as good as home.

 As Cathy and I have often remarked to each other, one of the most enjoyable things about living here for an extended period of time is to be able to have different impressions of the same place.  We have been here long enough and visited London and Cambridge enough times that we notice things that the short period visitor, on his or her guard, thrown off balance a little, somewhat awed by the different sights and sounds and anxious not to get lost, might miss.  We can now choose a favorite time of year or view among the many.  We walk down the same street for the umpteenth time and notice things we have not noticed before, because we can skip the manifest differences.  Spring is arrived, and soon the branches will be completely filled with leaves and we will no longer be able to see through the branches to the fields or homes behind.  Which is more enjoyable?  It is hard to say. 

 As we approach departure time, we think about the benefits of home.  We have loved every minute here, though Cathy (the Las Vegas native), began to tire of the cold weather by the end of March.  Since we have returned from our holiday in Italy (April 18), the weather has warmed by 5 or 7 degrees (mostly 50's to 40's, not 40's to 30's), enough for us to turn down the heaters.  We have also had some lovely days (60's).  I think we have seen the last of the cold, thick fog which sometimes settled, particularly to the north of Cambridge, where the land is very flat and the rivers run between mounds reminding me of the levies on the Mississippi.  Today it is raining; perhaps car washes and full swimming pools will not be banned, after all. 

 The brilliant (as the boys would say) thing that I find hard not to go crazy about, is that we live 45 miles from one of the major cities of the world, yet we live in the country.  It is all very expensive here, but if you have some money to spend, as we did the last year, there are many things to take advantage of:  in London, the theater, the music concerts, a black tie Sunday Times Literary Banquet.  Cambridge is cheaper and has theater and music as well.  Museums are free with only suggested donations.  (There are some bargains, and a roundtrip ticket and all day's subway [Tube] pass in London from here is £10.80 after 10 am [about $19]; McDonald's is about the same in sterling as dollars, so is about 1.75 times more expensive.  (The truth of the matter, however, is that anything times the six of us is expensive, even with children's discounts!)  On May 8th, we will attend the Folio debate: P. D. James and John Mortimer will debate the supremacy of detective fiction over serious fiction; it is a limited seating, the tickets were £80 and I think we were able to buy them by having had our names picked out of a hat, though maybe everyone who sent in got tickets.  Living in Las Vegas is very far from this kind of life, yet in some ways it is similar: much of the world beats its way to our doors, though obviously we have different attractions.  But it is hard to imagine even San Francisco or New York offering the same kind of attractions that London has.  It is really, after all, a small country.  The weekend of March 20th I attended a residence class on Coleridge in the Lake District (300 miles northwest).  Beautiful country, reminding me just a little of Idaho (I suppose it was the green, but treeless mountains.), though with stone farmhouses and walls, Victorian villages.

I wish I could stay here and I will work harder at writing over the next few months, but I fear the gig is up!  (As I have also realized from the beginning, much of the attraction of this year has been not where I am, but that I have had the time.)  How much will we have changed and how much will we settle back into the old routine?  One thing we will definitely be thankful for is the roominess of 2512 Callita Court, after seeing so many tiny homes over here.

I had meant to write more about the EEC.  As the reality of the closer union approaches, enthusiasm seems to be waning.  Britain received a lot of bad press for its reluctance to endorse European unity to its fullest, but now all we seem to read about is cold feet at adopting the December Maastricht agreements.  Germany doesn't want to give up the DM for a common currency.  German foreign policy decisions forcing early EC recognition of Croatia, Serbia, Bosnia against wishes of other EC countries (and US) have proved how difficult unified, majority vote foreign policy can be.  Italy wants to get rid of corruption and has no coalition to run its government.   France is confused and now clearly not the shining star of Europe in the light of a unified Germany.  Strikes and recession in Germany bring its attention home.  Everyone is angry at German high interest rates.  Strong movements to the right exist in France and Germany and Italy, whether it is just to get the attention of the government or genuine attachment to "me" politics at the expense of "us" is hard to say.  Britain remains unflappable, though a big argument is brewing over German demands that Frankfurt not London be the EC economic/banking capital.  As respected as he is in foreign policy, George Bush appears totally out of touch with the rest of the world as a lone hold out to the world environment conference in the summer in Brazil (though that is losing some of its respectability as its proximity brings to the forefront the petty squabbles and disorganization).

Give my love to Jodi, David and Karen, and my regards to Herb, Mel, Joe, and, as Mad Magazine used to say, the usual gang of idiots.

All my best,

P.S.  Looks like a tight race in the NL West!






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